Sex

You perverts… as soon as you saw the title, you couldn’t help but clicking on the link, could you?

Don’t worry… you’re normal. I am going to blog about sex though, so you won’t be disappointed that the title was an awful attempt at cheap publicity. I’m going to talk about…

My first time…
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… teaching my son about ‘the birds and the bees’… didn’t you know this is a family oriented blog??

Anyway, I haven’t been asked by my son to explain where babies come from yet… he’s still fixated on the moon’s movement around the earth… and of course, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. But I’m pretty sure he’s going to ask soon.

I’ve never lied to my son when he asks me about any topic… I’ll stick to the actual scientific explanation (I’ve actually explained why you can only see parts of the moon some nights… I used a globe and explained the moon’s movement around the earth). I could have gone with ‘because it’s like that, lah…’ or ‘there’s a man on the moon and sometimes he switches of the lights to save electricity’… but that would just confuse him in the future. I find that kids are smart enough to understand scientific fact… they may ask you to explain it again for about 200 times, but that’s just a part of parenting.

Asians mainly regard sex as a taboo topic… I’ve never had the ‘sex talk’ with my parents… well, except for one line from my mom many years ago which was “no sex before marriage.” I was lucky though that I grew up in Canada, where sex education was part of the syllabus… It’s better to get your information from teachers and medical personnel than to get it from your friends and porn.

Contrary to popular belief in Asia, learning about sex does not mean that you’ll immediately go out and get those ‘birds’ and ‘bees’ to meet. Since the formal education already satisfies your curiosity, you don’t need to go out and ‘experiment’. In fact, the main theme of sex education in schools is abstinence.

Now back to my son. I don’t claim to be an expert in child psychology or even basic parenting. So I’ve got to do research on this topic first… I don’t want to be caught off guard when me son asks “how did the baby get into his mommy’s stomach”. Too much info and he might get confused… too little info, and he might get curious… and we all know how curiosity killed the cat.

This is tough. I wonder if I can just stick to my mom’s line. “Son, no sex before marriage!”