You are the same person you are now that you were when you were born. If you were happy when you were a kid, then you are most likely a bubbly person now. If you were boring as a kid... well, you get the picture...
I've found that I still have the same traits I had when I was a kid... I crave attention, I'm very sensitive, I have my mood swings, I have a lot of love to give and I require that love to be reciprocated. So much for becoming more mature, eh?
Don't start thinking how you've changed over the years... because you haven't. None of us do... we are creatures of habit. That's why people make the same mistakes again and again... you learn from your mistakes, but you are just driven to do it all over again.
This becomes a problem in relationships... we try to change our partners to suit our needs. We tell them how certain things are important to us, and they should make that change in their lives because you would do the same for them... that's what love is, isn't it? Sacrifice, give and take....
If you can't change yourself, then what makes you think you can change others?
Of course we try to cater to our partners... the most simple example would be to drop a bad habit like smoking... I've seen friends who 'quit smoking' because their partner doesn't approve... but give them a single opportunity, and they'll be puffing away like there's no tomorrow...
You can only change for yourself, not for others. We weren't built like that. Yes, we adapt... but are we totally happy with that adaptation? Or are we just lying to ourselves?
So here's my two cents... if you love a person, don't expect them to change for you... accept their 'shortcomings'... go ahead and be miserable... because your love for them would cancel out that misery...
Kind of depressing, don't you think? But if you've ever been in love, you know that love hurts...
Hehehe... I couldn't resist... this song's been stuck in my head for many years now.
There's got to be a point to this post, right... so here it is...
We are creatures of habit and will never change... you can try, but whether or not you'll be happy after changing is still up for debate. So just learn to love yourself.... cause no matter how awful you are, somebody loves you just the way you are...
